Be Simple, I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years now. He was always labeled as a "sweet" guy. He pined after a girl he worked with for 2+ years. She chose to go after abusers and bad boys, but always lamented to him that she was tired of those types of guys. In the end he realized that a relationship with her just wasn't going to happen. He gained some confidence and found me when he wasn't looking. Everyday I'm with him, I am thankful that he never changed who he was. I love having a sweet guy who treats me with respect and loves me for being just me.

Give it time and the right girl will come along. This may be your higher being's way of saying, "HEY! You need to take care of yourself first." It's hard to concentrate on school and a relationship at the same time. I had to quit going to college for awhile because I was so wrapped up in a former relationship. I was nearly kicked out for my grades dropping.

This is so classic that It may turn into a proverb.


Yeah, that's the point if I really move on with my life. I used to console and control myself by reading an article that I wrote and carried it with me that days. The following is its content.

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When I miss her, it’s not wise to argue with my mind although that intervenes with my action. What I can do then is definitely not to force me not to think about her. I know it’s futile and I will be anxious, thus this will ruin my mood and break my plan full enough. However if I relax myself by recalling the time we used to spend together. Then I begin to smile. And this good feeling is strengthened as long as I console myself with some considerations:

1. We are not lovers, and she is seeing another guy. It’s ok because she is happy now. I will be happy as long as she is happy.

2. I can still ask her out. She almost agreed. We are friends and we still have a ball when we play together. That’s fantastic.

3. We don’t know each other well. Maybe we don’t match. Couples who married or not, who get along for a long time or not could end in departing. So, maybe it is good time for me to calm down, to think through it.

4. This is a hardship for me now. But, it’s also a good time for me to improve myself, to promote my personality. If I weaken my shortages and became a capable, successful, confident, impressive man, what could I lose? Then she may like me.

5. If it’s been proved that my crush on her is a one-sided love, she would suffer more loss than me. As for her, she rejects a guy who cares her more than other guys do; for me, I just lose a girl who doesn’t care me. She will regret in future, but I won’t.

Then I can insinuate something else into missing her gently, and gradually I won’t study halfheartedly.
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Now, I never call her for sports or something like. We descend into strangers except that we say Hi to each other if the unavoidable situations happen. As for my feelings for her, I just hide it and don't think about it by keeping myself busy!



I guess if we could hang out some day, I would achieve what you mean.

Thank you for sharing your experience. I think I am now in the process of gaining my confidence just as your boyfriend did. Actually I somewhat lose my interest to girls now. And I wish some day there is a girl who can inspire it.

How can i tell the girl i love that i realy love her, i never met her but we had chat alot on messenger .. she thinks me as a good friend only .. how can i tell her that i love her from the bottom of my heart. I had told her that i love her but she said that i dnt think in that way u r my friend thats it .. i will only go for my parents choice... love is not my cup of tea.

Please guide

Be glad you have her as a friend and leave it at that, as she suggested. Trying harder to convince her you love her as much as you think you do will not change her feelings and will eventual force the friendship to end as well. Sometimes love is not returned and it isn't an indictment on you or her, it just what it is.

I don’t show myself up on this forum for almost half a year. I am happy to found out this topic didn’t sink where I can’t trace. I have been busy within this period, and now I am still. I kept myself busy not only because I took the advices many warm-hearted anonymous offered as above, incidentally, thank you so much; but also because I want to avoid from missing her, although sometimes I failed. I often came up with some questions why I had such strong crush on her; even I couldn’t tell what things in her attract me for such a long time. I have experienced some feelings on other girl before, but they were all different, and couldn’t persist much long.

Since May, the girl or the goddess in my eyes and me are in a same studio where we sit no farther than 2 meters. But I promise everyone sometimes I can’t see her face clearly as her face always shines special lights that stun me. I try my best to act normally in front of her. And I think I manage to do that for the last several months.

Sounds Like You Need to relax a little maybe a good shot of Jack will help with that. You need to take her some were you feel comfortable With take her for a romantic drive are a walk on the beach usually a good place go slow let her make the first move than pounce on it . Good luck

Darn Stone Your advice just got me a good slap on the face Ouch Lol

That's not surprising. Stone's been slapped dozens of times.

My advice is tailor made to fit the scenario. It was addressed to Be Simple. Not Bob.